They are worse than patriarchal, most are misogynists. This recent Guardian article points out that “… the perpetrators of some of the worst terrorist attacks had something in common. A high proportion shared a history of assaulting wives, girlfriends and other female relatives, sometimes involving a whole series of victims, long before …
They are worse than patriarchal, most are misogynists. This recent Guardian article points out that “… the perpetrators of some of the worst terrorist attacks had something in common. A high proportion shared a history of assaulting wives, girlfriends and other female relatives, sometimes involving a whole series of victims, long before they attacked total strangers.”
The author went on to research and write a book about the strong link between terrorists and abuse of women and recommends it be included as a risk factor for it.
I agree about the need for a 1619 project for women. I recently had a conversation with my son about how heartbreaking it is that black families need to have “the talk” with their sons and how terrible it is to have to live with that kind of fear. Then I pointed out that in a few years he would also need to have a similar talk with his daughter about how to protect herself from sexual harassment and assault. I told him what it is like for a woman to live with the constant awareness that she could be a victim at work, walking to her car at night, at home, on a date, etc.
It is long past time we realize the threat that black men face from law enforcement in our society but I can’t understand why there isn’t as much attention to the constant threat that over half of our population also lives with.
Just like anything else in the world anything about women is spoken on secret by other women. I'm in my 70's and remember a woman in my neighborhood who ran out of her house with know clothes on, she was admitted to psych ward. Her problem change of life that was never talked about either, the reason I know is because my grandmother always spoke the truth to me being the only granddaughter. There are lots of subjects that kept women in the dark and yes it's about control by men. Yes we must keep fighting and talking to our daughters for their safety.
If they spoke about those things at all. Most were too ashamed to bring those topics up even with close friends, let alone male doctors. My grandmother and her sister were born in the early 1880s and I knew both of them well. (They were quite the characters and I was lucky to know them.) They never talked about any of these things and, from what my mother said, didn’t know much anyway and what they did know was usually wrong. My mom was born in 1910 and was older than many of my friends’ mothers but she was much more willing to talk about these things because she had been so ignorant growing up. She would talk to her friends about things like hot flashes and foggy brain. They were usually surprised and relieved to hear that other women went through the same things.
When I was growing up in the 50s many doctors blamed autism on mothers, accusing them of being cold and failing to bond with their child. This happened even when the woman had other kids who were thriving.
My best friend’s mother was born in the early 1920s but she was kept even more in the dark than my mother. I will never forget when she told us that she had had no idea how babies were made. She only found out shortly before her wedding when her father-in-law-to-be took her aside and told her what was going to happen on her wedding night! He was a physician and somehow had realized that she was clueless -luckily. That still boggles my mind.
When my mom was in her 60s one of her friends admitted to her that sex had always been really painful. The woman had had 5 kids but had never told anyone, not even her doctor, until my mom talked her into it. The same person later died from breast cancer. Her tumor had grown too big before she noticed it because she was uncomfortable about doing a self exam. After all touching yourself might be a sin! This woman was well educated and her husband was a hospital administrator. That kind of silence caused a lot of suffering and even death.
I’m 73 and feel as if our generation of women straddle Donna Reed days of twin beds and perfect white everything, and Bella Abzug, Betty Friedan, MS Magazine and Gloria Steinem and Roe vs Wade miraculously making abortions legal. Thank you for putting the focus on our daughters, granddaughters. Pre Roe as you so well know was anti women, pro patriarchy; shut up and sit down; know your place, smile more. Today’s women won’t put up with that kind of crap nor keep hidden all that comes so naturally to women, please God🙏.
They are worse than patriarchal, most are misogynists. This recent Guardian article points out that “… the perpetrators of some of the worst terrorist attacks had something in common. A high proportion shared a history of assaulting wives, girlfriends and other female relatives, sometimes involving a whole series of victims, long before they attacked total strangers.”
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/aug/05/many-terrorists-abuse-women-research-extremist-attackers-violent-misogyny
The author went on to research and write a book about the strong link between terrorists and abuse of women and recommends it be included as a risk factor for it.
I agree about the need for a 1619 project for women. I recently had a conversation with my son about how heartbreaking it is that black families need to have “the talk” with their sons and how terrible it is to have to live with that kind of fear. Then I pointed out that in a few years he would also need to have a similar talk with his daughter about how to protect herself from sexual harassment and assault. I told him what it is like for a woman to live with the constant awareness that she could be a victim at work, walking to her car at night, at home, on a date, etc.
It is long past time we realize the threat that black men face from law enforcement in our society but I can’t understand why there isn’t as much attention to the constant threat that over half of our population also lives with.
The January 6 insurrectionists share histories of domestic violence, misogyny in common too. Of course. Our homegrown version.
Just like anything else in the world anything about women is spoken on secret by other women. I'm in my 70's and remember a woman in my neighborhood who ran out of her house with know clothes on, she was admitted to psych ward. Her problem change of life that was never talked about either, the reason I know is because my grandmother always spoke the truth to me being the only granddaughter. There are lots of subjects that kept women in the dark and yes it's about control by men. Yes we must keep fighting and talking to our daughters for their safety.
If they spoke about those things at all. Most were too ashamed to bring those topics up even with close friends, let alone male doctors. My grandmother and her sister were born in the early 1880s and I knew both of them well. (They were quite the characters and I was lucky to know them.) They never talked about any of these things and, from what my mother said, didn’t know much anyway and what they did know was usually wrong. My mom was born in 1910 and was older than many of my friends’ mothers but she was much more willing to talk about these things because she had been so ignorant growing up. She would talk to her friends about things like hot flashes and foggy brain. They were usually surprised and relieved to hear that other women went through the same things.
When I was growing up in the 50s many doctors blamed autism on mothers, accusing them of being cold and failing to bond with their child. This happened even when the woman had other kids who were thriving.
My best friend’s mother was born in the early 1920s but she was kept even more in the dark than my mother. I will never forget when she told us that she had had no idea how babies were made. She only found out shortly before her wedding when her father-in-law-to-be took her aside and told her what was going to happen on her wedding night! He was a physician and somehow had realized that she was clueless -luckily. That still boggles my mind.
When my mom was in her 60s one of her friends admitted to her that sex had always been really painful. The woman had had 5 kids but had never told anyone, not even her doctor, until my mom talked her into it. The same person later died from breast cancer. Her tumor had grown too big before she noticed it because she was uncomfortable about doing a self exam. After all touching yourself might be a sin! This woman was well educated and her husband was a hospital administrator. That kind of silence caused a lot of suffering and even death.
I’m 73 and feel as if our generation of women straddle Donna Reed days of twin beds and perfect white everything, and Bella Abzug, Betty Friedan, MS Magazine and Gloria Steinem and Roe vs Wade miraculously making abortions legal. Thank you for putting the focus on our daughters, granddaughters. Pre Roe as you so well know was anti women, pro patriarchy; shut up and sit down; know your place, smile more. Today’s women won’t put up with that kind of crap nor keep hidden all that comes so naturally to women, please God🙏.
The problem started when women went out to work to help support their families, men lost control then.
Plus the pill.